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by Judith A
I would like to share what I have experienced on my journey as a sex addict's wife in the past 3 years. My husband attended a L.I.F.E. Recovery Group for 3 years prior and stated that his recovery would be better if I attended a group as well. Unfortunately, I did not buy into the process that easily, because in my mind I had done so many bible lessons and retreats already for my own spiritual growth. I felt like it was his turn to work on his problem. I finally conceded to going when the leaders (married couple) of both the men's and spouses’ L.I.F.E. Recovery Groups decided on having a L.I.F.E. Recovery couples group once a month. This had never been done before but the leaders felt it would help with the process of spouses. I believe I would have been too ashamed and nervous to walk into a spouses group by myself at first. So this was a door that I was willing to walk through with my husband. The love, understanding and compassion that the leaders had for each of us was absolutely amazing. Their honesty and openness encouraged me to warm up to them, along with the safe environment. At every meeting guidelines are read to ensure our privacy and to protect us in order to heal and experience growth in a healthy way. Getting to know these leaders in this non-confrontational way with my husband encouraged me to want to join the L.I.F.E. Recovery Group for Spouses. I joined the spouses group about 2 months later and learned how to listen to others with similar stories and know that I was not alone in what I was experiencing. The Group Safety Guidelines stated in the L.I.F.E Recovery Guide set the tone for the group. Here I could express my feelings, hurts, and pain without shame. It is a place where I am respected right where I am on my journey. Here are some of the things I have walked through with the spouses in my group:
1.)I felt entitled and thought everyone was against me.
2.) I tried to manipulate people and tried to control them.
3.) I had unknowingly tried to cope with things by being busy instead of thinking about what I was feeling.
4.) I truly didn't know my desires and what they looked like.
5.) I did not know that I had to grieve some of my dreams of a perfect life.
6.) I was afraid to state my opinion without being ridiculed.
7.) I lived in fear of people and what they thought about me.
8.) Giving unwanted advice.
9.) Addressing my fear of a God who punishes more than loves me.
10.) Detecting my weak points where the enemy tries to steal my joy.
I could list many other things, but most importantly, this program helped me to express myself and process pain in a healthy environment. I grew through listening to the other ladies and hearing about their
progress with the Father. I have become more authentic, more empathetic and kind. Jesus is truly my redeemer and has restored me to Himself so gently in this atmosphere of women who want to be better and not bitter toward God, themselves, their spouses, children and others around them.
We continue to meet 3 times a month in our separate spouses and men’s L.I.F.E. Recovery Groups and once a month in the L.I.F.E. Recovery couples group. What a great road map to healing various angles of our addiction and codependency!
For me, my L.I.F.E. Recovery Group is true discipleship and I have complete freedom in Him in my emotional, spiritual and physical life now. AMEN!