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Our Addiction Recovery Model

The L.I.F.E. Time Recovery Model is an addiction recovery model based upon the Seven Principles of living in freedom everyday.

Purpose

We are motivated to work together with our brothers and sisters within the Church, sexual addiction ministries, counseling professionals, colleges and social service agencies to unite our strategies in service to the sexually broken.

We recognize in this endeavor to establish a standard that we are to remain open to new applications. In order for these additions to be adopted they should embrace and enhance the current L.I.F.E. Time Recovery Model principles for sexual addiction recovery and be approved by L.I.F.E. Recovery International’s review board.

L.I.F.E. Time Recovery Model – First Year of Recovery

The L.I.F.E. Time Recovery Model is a time-line of sexual addiction recovery. Dr. Patrick Carnes and Dr. Mark Laaser imply an active recovery of 3-5 years, which includes a maintenance phase of recovery demonstrated by continual service. Leaving the recovery process increases incidents of relapse.

Here is a depiction of the first year of our addiction recovery model:

Addiction Recovery Model

After disclosure and the impact of sexual addiction, the questions asked by those entering recovery is: “What do I do now?’ ‘Where do I begin?’ and ‘What will the journey of recovery look like?” This graphic is a general guideline to the first year of recovery to assist the facilitator in demonstrating the progressive process of recovery to the new member.

The First Month of Recovery

Begin Attending L.I.F.E. Groups
This is one of the first steps of the journey into recovery, and a cornerstone of our addiction recovery model. Connecting with others who struggle with Sexual Addiction and Co-Addiction will show that there is hope and that they are not alone; the members of the group will help serve as a guide in the journey of their own recovery.

Sign a Group Covenant
Signing a group covenant begins the process of accountability. The covenant illustrates group responsibilities and consequences to help protect the new member and the group.

L.I.F.E. Orientation Guide for Men
This is a 101-style guide to the first 4 weeks of recovery and integration into L.I.F.E. groups. It helps recovering men answer the question, “Do they really need recovery?”

Spouses Grieving Section of the Spouse L.I.F.E. Guide
This section of the L.I.F.E. Guide helps a spouse to grieve the losses associated with sexual addiction. It is the beginning of the journey for their personal recovery and transformation.

Begin Journaling
The weeks that follow disclosure/discovery are filled with questions, emotions, and many thoughts; journaling is an essential activity in the healing process. Journaling is also a good way to look back and see the changes and growth of the journey.

Find a Counselor
L.I.F.E. Recovery International recommends working with a personal counselor for individual and couples recovery, as needed or desired.

Couples: It is encouraged, that couples seek counseling together initially and establish points along the first year to reconnect for couples counseling to maintain the marriage; please do not forego an individual counselor to work on your own personal journey.

The Second Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling)

Begin weekly assignments in L.I.F.E. Guide workbook

Guides are available on the L.I.F.E. website for Men; Women; Spouses; Couples and Young Men and Young Women.

Obtain a Sponsor
An established member from the group will become the new members sponsor, this person will be the contact for a daily check-in, accountability to call when they are struggling; this person will serve as their guide in recovery.

Expand Accountability Partners
These are established members in the group and safe people in your daily life that you can learn to be accountable for day-to-day behaviors.

Attend a Workshop
L.I.F.E. Recovery International offers Biblically-based addiction recovery workshops.

The Third Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability)

Self-Educate
L.I.F.E. Recovery International has a list of recommended supplemental resources available on our website that can help with understanding sexual addiction and recovery.

Sign 90-day Abstinence Contract
Have a 90-day plan to work on non-sexual intimacy and healthy relationships. This contract is recommended for individuals as well as couples.

Sign Marriage Contract with your spouse
With healthy boundaries established, this contract encourages commitment and allows the couple to work on their individual recovery without fear that the marriage will end.

The Fourth Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability and abstinence)

Become an accountability partner
L.I.F.E. recommends an individual must have 90 days of sobriety and confirmed accountability before becoming an accountability partner.

The Fifth Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability and abstinence)

The Six Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability and abstinence)

The Seventh Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability)

Become a Sponsor
L.I.F.E. encourages group members that have maintained sobriety, accountability and finished 90 days of abstinence before becoming a sponsor for new group members.

Co-facilitate the group
With maintained group attendance and guidance from the group Facilitator, members at this point can help the group by co-facilitating the meeting; activities like, helping set up for the meeting, lead opening prayer, etc are good examples.

The Eighth Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability)

The Ninth Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with sponsor and maintaining accountability)

Begin Facilitator Training
If a member demonstrates interest in becoming a group facilitator, the current facilitator will become their mentor and begin training with L.I.F.E Facilitator materials, teach the “LRM” and encourage the pursuit of advanced training.

The Tenth Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with your sponsor and maintaining accountability)

The Eleventh Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with your sponsor and maintaining accountability)

The Twelfth Month of Recovery
(Continue attending groups and counseling; check in daily with your sponsor and maintaining accountability)

Celebrate!
Having worked very hard this past year, we recommend that you celebrate this date; this is a very special day!

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